Thursday, July 23, 2009
I TRIED...
A very young first time mom I work with was due mid July. I had a few brief time to politely tell her about the high c/s rate her OB has, recommend finding a midwifeand doula, and lots of helpful things I thought could safe her from a c/s. I apologized for soliciting advice but explained I only wanted to help. She never seemed worried or concerned, but rather confident. I told her if she ever needed help that I would do my best. I ran into her today. Her baby was born a month early and I know I shouldn't have asked but I did. " how was the birth?" She smiled and said it was good, she had a Cesarean." My heart sank and I know my face probably showed it. I felt sorry for her and mad at her OB. How did I fail ? I couldn't "save" her.
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Some think C/S's are so much better. When in reality, they aren't! Not that I have had 1, but being cut in my stomach 5 times during my last pregnancy, it HURTS and the recovery sucks!
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I know...Its just so personal to me...I know what she may have to face in her future reproduction and she clearly does not. Its not just about recovery after a c/s...but now her risks for still birth, etopic pregnancy, infertility, placenta previa, the lists goes on. Do they tell you this when they casually tell you its time for a c/s ? NO ! ugh..its very frustrating.
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